Yes, for couples who can’t get pregnant, there are many options available. The field of reproductive medicine has seen significant advancements in the past couple of decades. There now exist many infertility treatments – from fertility drugs to surgeries, from IUI to IVF.
But even then, it’s important to be aware that these treatments aren’t perfect. They don’t guarantee the desired outcome. They have their own flaws and challenges. Despite several trials and procedures, the couple may still fail to conceive.
Failure in infertility treatments isn’t uncommon.
Keep Your Expectations Right
So, foremost, during the treatment period, it’s important to keep your expectations realistic. In case your efforts fail, you and your partner want to be in a state to properly handle the result. While it sure will not be easy – after all you invested so much into it, both emotionally and financially – you must make a rational decision and choose the right path thereon.
Talk to Your Health Care Provider
You will likely have plenty of questions on your mind – the what’s, how’s, and why?’s. Find out their answers. Talk to your doctor.
Discuss with them what went wrong, what you should do next, what are the chances of success in the next cycle, what changes should you make in your lifestyle to improve fertility; how should you go about with the fertility drugs you might be on, what further tests should you do, and more.
The doctor will hopefully provide you with satisfying answers, clearing all your doubts. They will also outline a course of plan for you.
Listen to them and follow their advice. At the least, it will keep you from feeling lost.
It’s Not the End
Many fertility treatments might not deliver you the desired result in the first few cycles.
So, just because these initial trials have failed doesn’t mean it’s an end to your dream of having a family. Of course, keeping up with the treatment comes at a cost. For instance, it is recommended, you should try up to six cycles of in vitro fertilization. But IVF is expensive. And this isn’t something every couple can afford.
However, if you are financially adept, keep trying different treatments and cycles. Furthermore, continue making positive lifestyle changes and practicing safe sex.
There shouldn’t be an end to hope.
Take Care of Each Other
As mentioned, failed infertility treatment can be emotionally tolling. So, both partners must be solid support for each other. Do not try to suppress your feelings. Talk about the problems. Discuss “what now”. Remember, in this situation, your partner needs you just as much as you need her/him. So, keep the communication effective, light, and positive. Help lift the other person.
Seek Emotional Counseling
If it’s too difficult to get over with the situation – and you or your partner is too emotionally and mentally shaken – counseling is a great option.
You can either find a qualified counselor yourself or ask for a recommendation from your fertility doctor. A few counseling sessions can really make a big difference, helping you feel much better and with an optimistic outlook.
In case, if any of you are showing depressive tendencies, which isn’t uncommon in couples, the counselor may even prescribe medications. Listen to their advice and suggestions. Get hold of your life back. Everyone goes through that “grief period” after their dreams of having a child foil. But this period shouldn’t stretch for too long so that it affects you physically and mentally.
Consider Advanced Techniques
At times, cycle failures cannot be explained as the embryo and the womb lining bot seem OK. For such cases, advanced options like AI based embryo selection may help. Pls talk to your consultant regarding these options and whether they can be offered to you.
Explore Other Options
Adoption is a great option.
In fact, more people are now adopting kids – even when they are fertile.
So, discuss this route with your doctor. They might refer you to any adoption agency. Or you can find an agency yourself. The professionals there will take you through the entire process around what needs to be done to adopt a baby.
Another option for couples here is to live child-free. This isn’t as bad as it may sound. Live with your partner, make a happy life for yourself, and enjoy the rest of the coming years in your blissful abode.
Prioritize Your Health
In the end, no matter what you choose – if you want to continue trying, if you want more cycles, if you want to adopt, if you want to have a child-free life…
It’s essential to prioritize your health.
Eat healthy foods. Workout regularly. Start practicing meditation and yoga. Take up healthy habits.
Always keep in touch with your doctor. Go for regular checkups.
All the best!
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